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How to Be True to Yourself in an Increasingly Judgemental World

Pointing to the truh in yourself
When you're true to yourself, you can't help but be true to others. You'll find your confidence growing, along with your ability to build meaningful relationships and share yourself with the world in a genuine way. In this article, you will find out how you can be true to yourself. The opportunities this provides will help improve in all aspects of your life — from work to home life.

Own who you are

Don’t try to be someone else or pretend to be something that you are not. Be honest with yourself and others, and they will appreciate your authenticity.

In life, it is important to own who you are – your feelings, values, individuality and mistakes (and even strengths and weaknesses). The more we own these things about ourselves today; the easier tomorrow will be for us as we develop and fundamentally live our lives.

Own your feelings

It's important to know that owning your feelings isn’t about being angry or sad all the time and making everyone around you miserable. It also doesn't mean accepting things in a passive way that makes you feel like a victim, either. Instead, it means being honest with yourself about how you feel and being willing to communicate those feelings openly with others in a way that feels authentic for you.

This is by no means easy to do at first. But once you begin to accept that feeling your emotions is completely normal and that everyone goes through them, you’ll be able to regulate and manage your emotions much more easily. Therefore, you will be able to express your feelings in a more sincere and open manner.

Of course, going through this transition isn’t an overnight process. But, the key is to not let your emotions define who you are and instead percieve your emotions as something that is happening to you in response to the way you think. So, you have the ability to completely control your emotions through your mindset and therefore how you percieve the world around you.

 Equally, it is vital that you understand how it is not only important for you, but also your loved ones that you can accept your emotions without judgment or shame. When you are able to process what's going on inside without having everything spill over into your relationships you avoid negatively affecting those around you. So, you end up conveying a sincere and genuine self with love and compassion.

Communicate effectively

Being able to communicate with clarity is a key way to live true to yourself and others. After all, you can't expect other people to understand you if you don't take the time to clearly and directly express your thoughts, feelings, and desires. 

It's also important that you're able to listen well in order for others to feel heard and understood by you. Being an effective communicator requires more than just expressing yourself; it also means knowing how best to listen at various times during a conversation so that everyone feels like they have their say and that their opinions matter.

Effective communicators should also be able to give criticism when necessary - especially when there are errors in judgment or performance - and they must learn how best to not only accept criticism, but also to give criticism constructively so as not put other people off balance or make them feel attacked or intimidated.

Finally, being a good communicator means having assertive skills: knowing what needs to be said (and why), knowing how much detail is enough but not too much (as to leave room for questions), and also allowing all parties' voices to be heard in conversations rather than dominating with monologues about yourself and your experiences.

These communication skills will help build trust among team members because everyone feels heard regardless of position within an organization’s hierarchy; hence, greater collaboration takes place among co-workers who share mutual respect despite differences between departments or personal backgrounds/experiences.

Value yourself

If you value yourself, you know that all people are valuable. If a person does not value themselves, they can’t see the worth in others. After all, being able to see the worth in others is also an important part of supportive and proactive relationships.

Ultimatley, you need to know how to value yourself! When you first start out on this journey, it might be hard to not get caught up in self-centeredness and self-defeating behavior patterns. But if you keep working on it, then eventually you will be able to really see who you are and what you want out of life!

Spend time with people who share your values

In this world, it's important to surround yourself with people who share your values. It's true that there are many wonderful people out there who don't share the same beliefs as you. But in order to be happy and feel at peace, it's also vital that you surround yourself with those who share your same ideals and vision in life.

That being said, don't be afraid! Don't be afraid of conflict or disagreement. These things happen naturally in any relationship. The good news is that a little bit of healthy conflict can actually strengthen relationships by helping us understand our own views better and working together on solutions for issues we face together as a group or community.

Remember: don't change yourself for anyone else; only do what feels right to you and is a reflection of your authentic self.

Don’t be afraid to express your individuality, even if it makes you stand out from he crowd.

Being true to yourself and others is important because it allows you to be who you want to be. This allows you to live a more fulfilling life that aligns with your values and beliefs. 

So, even when expressing your individuality makes you stand out from the crowd, you won't care what other people think if you adopt this mentality. Plus other people are more likely to respect who you are as a person because they will be able to see your true colours shining through.

Being true to yourself starts by knowing and accepting who you are

It's important to know what you value, what you want and what you don't want. You need to be able to tell the difference between when your values are being met in your life and when they're not. Your values will help guide decisions that make sense for your life because they are shaped by deep-seated principles that reflect how you like to live your life as well as what type of person you want to be.

Being true to oneself means having an authentic relationship with yourself. This should be a relationship based on trust, respect, kindness and honesty; one where there is no need for pretense or masks; and one where you are able to acknowledge but also embrace who you truly are at your core.

Being true also means recognizing that no matter where we come from or what background we have been born into (whether rich or poor), every single person deserves respect no matter their circumstances. Everyone has values and a right to live life guided by ther own morals regardless of what other people think of them!


Being true to yourself is a journey. It's not an easy one, but it's worth it. You deserve to feel good about who you are, and your friends and family will respect you more when they know that you're authentic.

The Importance of Self-Discipline: 8 Steps to be More Self-Disciplined

  A women practising focus and self-control while sitting on rocks and looking out towards the sea

Self-discipline is one of the most useful characteristics that you can possess. 
It is the ability to see through any short-term distractions and instead take consistent actions to strive towards achieving your long-term goals. 
You will simply not go far in life without being self-disciplined!

So, It is no wonder why loads of the most successful people in this world all highly recognize their self-discipline as being a fundamental factor for their success. 
All you need to do is take a moment to think of any successful millionaire at the top of your head, and you’ll certainly see where I am coming from! 

8 Steps to be More Self-Disciplined 

1. Act on Your Own Initiative

Take a step back and ask yourself: What is it that I want? And Why do I want this?
After all, there is no point living your life based upon someone else's standards or ideologies.

It is important that you see the sense behind what it is that you want to achieve. 
You need to be bold and take things into your own hands.
Otherwise you will be stuck working for somebody else's dream!

2. Set Your Priorities

Decide what is most important to you and ultimately what you will get the most benefit out of in the long term.

If you are stuck on where to start with this, then look no further than using the Eisenhower Decision matrix.
This is a simple, but really effective matrix that helps us to acknowledge what work matters the most to us and ultimately what it is that we need to prioritize.
All you do is put tasks that you need to do into one of four different sections.

The sections of the Eisenhower Decision Matrix are:
Do it Now -  the most urgent and important tasks
Decide When to Do it - the tasks that are important, but not urgent
Delegate it - the tasks that are urgent, but not important 
Delete it - the tasks that are not important and not urgent

3. Set A Specific Time For Completion

If you’re running in a marathon in six months time and tell yourself that you will start training “later”, you most likely won’t start any time soon or will foolishly start at the last minute. 
Setting a deadline of “later” typically leads to constant postponement. 
It will be much easier for you to stick to your intention if you set a specific date.

Parkinson's Law identifies the necessity for a specific time frame very nicely.
Parkinson's Law is where the time that we spend doing a task increases in order to fill the time frame that we have set for the completion of that task.

For example, if you have to write a report that will take you 2 hours to complete, but you have a week to do it then the perceived complexity of the task will increase and appear more intimidating so as to fill up the week. 

4. Break Down Large Tasks Into Smaller Ones

By breaking down greater tasks into smaller tasks, it becomes less intimidating and perceived as being less challenging. 
This is because it makes it easier to see your progress when each goal gets completed. 

But, it also gives a sense of achievement throughout your journey to achieve the major goal, therefore improving your motivation and will-power along the way.

5. Ignore And Silence Your Haters

You’ve probably been in a situation before where you’ve told a friend or acquaintance about your goals or ideas and all they did was react with skepticism. 
It’s certainly disheartening and will start to fuel self-doubt that can hinder your motivation if you let it get to you.
But, before this happens, simply take it with a pinch of salt and move on!
If all people are going to do is see the negatives in everything that you do, then they aren't worth your time.

6. Find Your Rhythm

Everyone performs more efficiently at different phases within the day. 
The decisive factor for this is the so-called chronobiology. 
This is simply where bodily processes fluctuate considerably within a day. 
Whether this be the activity of your organs, your level or tiredness, or your ability to concentrate effectively. They all vary throughout the day.

Distinguish between the times of the day where you feel most energetic and those whee you feel most tired. 
Then, structure your day accordingly in order to work during the time periods where you are most energetic and able to focus more.

7. Visualize Your Goals

We are often motivated by the reward that we get from completing something. 
What this is can vary significantly from being intrinsic to extrinsic or introjected to identified. 

But, put that aside and simply ask yourself: 
What is your reason behind your goals? 
What do you treat yourself to when you've achieved your goals? 

Some people have the ability to visualize and imagine their goals, while others need a more definitive picture. 
Find out what works best for you!

8. Reward Yourself For Partial Success

Learn to praise and reward yourself regularly. 
This helps to promote an optimistic frame of mind and acknowledge the progress that you are making towards your end goal.

It is easy to get distracted in today's world with the endless amounts of technology at our fingertips. 
But through regularly rewarding ourselves, we soon recognize that striving towards our long-term goals is the right thing to do. 
It helps us to understand the importance of self-discipline and see the bigger picture.


Self-discipline is easily up there as being one of the most important personality traits and characteristics to possess in order to become successful in life.

It is certainly not easy to master self-discipline.
But, by learning from the steps in this article and ultimately putting them to action, you will be well on your path to becoming more self-disciplined in your every day actions

The Cookie Jar Method: A Method to Stay Motivated in Difficult Times

  A glass cookie jar full of cookies

No matter who you are, you would have encountered many difficult challenges and struggles during your life. 

Whether these be situations such as working long hours at a job that you hate or encountering relationship problems, we all know just how hard it can be to stay motivated and push forwards with our lives. 

Despite all of the difficult situations that life throws at us, we often find ourselves having a tiny bit more energy and persistence to push through these difficult times. 
This ability to strive forward and carry on is where the concept of the cookie jar method comes in to play. 

An Insight in to The Cookie Jar Method

The Cookie Jar method was developed bya former US Navy Seal called David Goggins.
But, in order to truly understand the Cookie Jar Method, we need to understand who David Goggins is. 

A Background of David Goggins:

  • Former US Navy SEAL
  • Competed in over 60 ultra-triathlons, ultra-marathons, and triathlons
    • Consistently placed in the top 5 of these races 
    • Set numerous course records
  • Former Guinness World Record holder for the most pull-ups in 24 hours
    • He achieved 4,030 pull-ups in 17 hours
So, clearly David Goggins is an extremely tough guy!
David Goggins running the 2007 Badwater Ultramarathon

How The Cookie Jar Method Came About

David Goggins wanted to run the Badwater Ultramarathon to raise money for the Special Operations Warrior Foundation. 
This is a foundation that works closely with the children of special operations soldiers that have unfortunately lost their lives and ultimately provides them with grants and college scholarships. 
So, it is a foundation that is close to Goggins' heart as lots of his close friends sadly died in a helicopter crash when serving in Afghanistan in 2005. 

However, David Goggins was told that he needed to have completed multiple 100 mile races before he could compete in the invitational based Badwater Ultramarathon. 
So, he entered the San Diego 24-hour ultramarathon that began in only 3 days time. 
This meant that David Goggins was effectively going to run the length of 4 marathons at once with no preparation, training or experience in long distance running. 
Clearly this proved to be a near impossible challenge to complete!

The Start of a New Mentality: San Diego 24-hour Ultramarathon

David Goggins running the 2007 Badwater Ultramarathon

During this ultramarathon is where the David Goggins Cookie Jar Method is developed and brought to life.

After 25 miles of the race had passed, Goggins was starting to feel very fatigued. 
He began questioning whether he would be able to complete the race. 
But, he kept persevering despite having the equivalent of 3 more regular marathons left to run!
When he reached 50 miles, his legs felt like concrete bricks. 
He could hardly move them and was experiencing lots of pain. 
But, he kept persevering!

Then, at the 70 mile mark, Goggins felt defeated as blood began dripping down his lifeless legs. He often describes this as being one of the lowest points in his life. He was constantly questioning why he was running the race in the first place and why he is still running.  

But, this soon became a turning point for Goggins. 
He realized that he had overcome many impossible tasks during his time as a US Navy SEAL.  
All of a sudden he felt a spur of energy and began to walk slowly. 
He was remembering all the difficult times he battled through. 
So, in essence he was adopting the emotional mentality that he experienced when overcoming these previous challenges. 
This then pushed him forward to complete 101 miles in 19 hours and 6 minutes.

This whole concept of reminiscing your previous achievements and failures that you conquered is what the Cookie Jar Method is based upon. 

What is The Cookie Jar Method?

The Cookie Jar method is where you mentally store and keep note of all of the past experiences that you've overcome and achieved. 
Then during times when you feel like giving up, you can simply take a cookie out the jar. 

In other words, you can refer back to a previous situation in your life where you overcame a difficult challenge or battled through a tough period in your life.

These difficult situations that you have overcome could include accomplishments such as breaking a bad habit, battling through a period of depression, or healing from a bad injury.

What ever these situations may be for you, they are vital to look back upon in situations where we are finding things challenging. 
This is because they can easily help you to gain a broader perspective and thereby providing you with an extra boost of motivation and strength when you feel like giving up.


We all know just how tough life can be at times!
But, overall David Goggins does an excellent job through his Cookie Jar Method by suggesting that we should always learn from our past experiences and use them to help us conquer our goals and overcome challenges in the present moment. 

Talking to Yourself Out Loud: What Does it Mean?

 A women dressed in blue with glasses on who is carefully starring at herself in the mirror and thinking deeply 

We are all guilty of talking to ourselves from time to time!

Yet talking aloud is typically how we interact with other people. So, it is easy to contemplate whether or not it is actually bad to talk to ourselves.

But, talking to yourself can uncover many things about you, some of which you may not even realise!

Talking to yourself out loud can mean many things, both good and bad. Determining the meaning of this is not whether you talk to yourself or not, but more so, how you talk to yourself. 
The key word here is ‘how’. 
The way in which you talk to yourself out loud is massively influential due to its deeper meanings and how it may impact you on a regular basis.

How to Develop a Winning Mindset

When we think of a winning mindset or mentality, we typically begin to associate it with people who are very competitive and want to beat everyone else. 
But, rather than viewing a winning mindset as something to do with greed, we instead must broaden our perspective of what it means to be a winner. 

So, when broadening our perspective, a winning mindset is more appropriately to do with not giving up and striving towards achieving our personal goals. 
This means that a winning mindset is a mindset that sees past excuses and always seeks to grow and develop further by pushing beyond the comfort zone.

Unconsciously Giving Up On Our Goals

Unfortunately, as humans we like to deceive ourselves without consciously acknowledging that we are doing so. 
We typically see this in theories such as the Cognitive Dissonance Theory. 

Cognitive Dissonance is where we experience conflicting thoughts, emotions, or behaviours. 
These ultimately cause mental discomfort (or imbalance/dissonance). 
So, to reduce this mental discomfort we need to change our behaviour. 

For example, you may know that doughnuts are unhealthy , but you eat them anyway because you like the taste of them. 
Or you know that attending training sessions for your football team will help you improve and get selected for matches. 
But, you don’t go to training because you find it boring and just want to play matches.

So these both provide examples of where our actions and desires are drawn towards pursuing short-term satisfaction which cause us to make these irrational decisions. 
These small obstacles that you inflict upon yourself are a decisive barrier to overcome in order to adopt a winning mindset and mentality.

Developing a Winning Mindset

In order to have a productive and growth mindset it is vital to identify our negative habits. 
Then, we should remove these negative habits by replacing them with good habits that aid our personal growth and development. 
Here are some of the key ways to identify and replace bad habits in order to develop a winning mindset:

1. Identify Your Main Goals and Life Objectives

Firstly, we need to understand and acknowledge what our main goals are in life or in a particular area or discipline that we feel that we need to improve in.

An effective way to do this by writing down a list of potential goals, then leave yourself with no more than 4 or 5 by crossing out the ones that you deem to be of lesser importance.

Therefore, this helps us to acknowledge our priorities and further improve our understanding of where we want to strategically develop the most on a long-term perceptive.

2. Recognize The Excuses That You Make

Secondly, developing a winning mindset is only possible if we initially combat our actions, thoughts, and feelings that are preventing us from making progress in life.

Therefore ,we need to identify areas of cognitive dissonance in our lives and then changing the attitude that is holding us back.

This may not be the most straightforward of things, but by simply being more accountable and responsive for your actions, you significantly improve your ability to develop in to a stronger and more successful person. 

3. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Stepping out of the comfort zone helps us to make good progress and positively strive towards our goals. 
However, it certainly isn't all sunshine and rainbows!

Most often than not, it puts us in to more stressful and fearful situations. 
Yet if we want to truly develop a winning mindset, then we need to keep pushing ourselves forward by escaping the confinements of our comfort zone.

Moreover, it is equally as important to avoid procrastination which in order to step out of the comfort zone. 

Procrastination is where we keep on putting things off by postponing or delaying them in order to avoid doing them.
We typically procrastinate when we fear that we may fail a task, or if we have certain characteristics that are associated with a greater fear of failure like a low self-esteem or low-confidence.
However, there are plenty of ways that we can strive to overcome procrastination .

Ways That You Can Overcome Procrastination Can Include:

  • Minimizing your distractions 
  • Use incentives through rewarding yourself when you complete the task
  • Set goals that are manageable
  • Realize that nothing can be perfect 
  • Break your work down in to smaller steps 
  • Make yourself accountable by telling others about your goals 
  • Don't over complicate the situation 
  • Make a start 

4. Adopting And Maintaining Good Habits 

Once we acknowledge our bad habits, it is important to act upon them in order to improve our ability to adopt a winning mindset.

In order to effectively do this, we need to start on a small scale by tackling one bad habit at a time. 
This therefore makes it easier to overcome bad habits by breaking each challenge down in to smaller and more achievable processes. 

Then, over time these incremental changes become more significant and can overall massively improve our mindset and mentality.

Once we have replaced our restrictive habits, we find that making effective progress is much more smooth and straightforward. 

Yet, it is always important that we continue our good habits through seeing the bigger picture.
So, we need to regularly re-evaluate our habits and keep a tight control upon maintaining the good habits. 


Building and maintaining a winning mindset allows us to overcome our excuses.
It does so by helping us to break out of our comfort zone, thereby focusing upon the long-term and ultimately leading to a more fulfilling, purposeful and meaningful life.

This is why adopting a winning mindset as a part of our everyday lives will have a very positive impact upon our lives and the satisfaction that we gain from our everyday actions.